Skydiving or Sex with your spouse for 30 days? You pick.
Did you know most people would rather jump out of a plane than sleep with their spouse for 30 days straight? What’s up with that?
A climb to the top of Mount Rainer is less frightful than trying not to say anything about anyone for a month. What’s up with that?
Facing the reality of life and the crazy mix of choices and responsibilities is daunting. You understand the stakes if you were picked for “Survivor” or “The Amazing Race,” possible hypothermia, hunger and resolute competitors who would do anything to win the title and the cash prize.
The 30 Days of You is a different kind of proposition. Admitting you want a different career, that your marriage needs improvement, that you are not as healthy as you look, these things have twisted and wily issues that are sure to pop up unexpectedly.
- You have to face the real YOU. My third challenge restricted from gossiping about anything, good or bad. On the second day I realized not only was I a chinwagger but I had entire relationships built around my blabbering. It was not a pleasant realization.
- You have to face the fork in the road. If you admit you want something
different, you can see the options and you have to admit you are actively choosing one of them. - You are not a victim of your career, your relationships or your health. You are officially an active participant in your future.
- Your friends may not like it or understand it and it can be alienating. I haven’t gotten much support for sleeping with my husband for 30 days. The common reaction is to wrinkle their nose and look at me like I was some kind of alien. I ended up covering the moment with nervous chatter and moving on. The experience means too much to me to really try to explain it.
- You are afraid your hunch is wrong. I tell you the 30 Days of You is built around a hunch, the solution waiting to be released from your soul. Right now, things are working okay. But what if you upset the applecart and your hunch was wrong? My experiment with my husband could have brought forth a realization that it just wasn’t there anymore. Then what?
Here’s the deal. 1) You are the real you anyway. 2) There is a fork in the road whether you realize it or not. 3) Your friends support, while lovely, cannot be a deal-breaker in your life. AND 4) Your hunch could be wrong but knowing the truth about your life will never be a mistake.
You don’t have to eat a spider to be brave. Feel the attraction to your fear. You are going Amazing Race on these fears and using 30 Days of You to kill it. You are going to be more afraid of what will happy if you don’t deal with those scary and unresolved issues that go bump in your life.
Are you ready for the challenge or are you going to be a sissy and go sky-diving instead?
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3 Comments
Heather
Hi Liz!! Glad I’m back on your email list! You’re totally right – being a complete wussy about making some changes for the better. I need to check and see if I can make your call session coming up…Thanks again!
Susan
Liz, This post really hit home. My 30 days of intentions started out as being looking for ways to give myself more personal space. Well I reached that proverbial fork in the road. Though there were people who knew change was coming and long over do, their reactions to the swiftness of the changes in my life have been mixed, odd and downright confusing. For me, it is definitely about finding my own truth and finding that positive change. Things are settling for me just as they are up in the air for me. There is a plan of action that has been put into place, the effects of that plan are being felt but have not born fruit yet. I’m not worried about it, I have faith that something greater is around the corner. I’m ready to grow.
Here is a statistic for you – “By taking 1 hour per day for independent study, 7 hours per week, 365 hours in a year, pme can learn at the rate of a full-time sturdent, in 3-5 years, the average person can become an expert in the topic of their choice, by spending only one hour per day.”
Keep blogging. Keep inspiring.
Many thanks. S
Liz
Heather- You are not a wussy! You are just a smart and strong woman with responsibilities. Now, you are going to show that same integrity that you show your family, friends and colleagues to yourself! I am so excited to walk these steps with you. I KNOW you are going to transform.